In 2012 I went through a very dramatic experience, I was raped. The person who raped me the brother of someone who was my friend at that time. I went through all the emotions: guilt, shame and fear before eventually telling my best friend what had happened. She was really supportive which helped when I eventually told my mum and dad. The police were then contacted and I reported the crime. My mum had heard about Glasgow and Clyde Rape Crisis and she put me in touch with them.
I came to Glasgow and Clyde Rape Crisis seeking help which was where I met my support worker Paula. I was in a very dark place having gone through the police investigation and I was still in shock. I didn’t know what to do as I couldn’t concentrate but with a supportive family and the support, I received from Paula I started to get stronger.
The 20th November is marked every year as the Transgender Day of Remembrance. This day to given aside to remember the many trans people who are murdered as result of prejudice and hatred. On this day Glasgow and Clyde Rape Crisis would like to take the opportunity to reiterate that trans women are welcome and included within our service provision. In 2017 it is incumbent on all violence against women services to be clear that we acknowledge that trans women are women and that we reject hate speech which would seek to deny the personhood of transgender women and exclude them from our movement.
The evidence is clear: transgender people, and transgender women in particular, are at risk of significant harm simply for walking through the world while transgender. For example, the Trans Research Review (2009) found that 42% of trans people do not live as their preferred gender for fear of losing their job and All About Trans report that 45% of trans people experience transition related family breakdown. The Trans Mental Health Review found that 82% of trans people had considered ending their lives; and 35% had attempted suicide.
This poem is written by a service user at Glasgow Rape Crisis Centre who has come a very long way in her personal journey to recover from trauma. She has never written poetry before but felt the need to let others know that she understands the battle they face following sexual violence.
Trust that you possess the power
Know that you are strong
Believe in your own self worth
You have the self respect
To kick them to the turf
Allow your pain to rise
And prepare to let it go
Then you have room within
To let positivity flow
When you feel cornered and trapped
As if there's no way out
Do not admit defeat
As intense and unbearable a feeling it may be
Remember it passes, it's temporary and set yourself free
You are already strong
But feel tired of fighting the battle
It's not a reason to give up
Rather rest and prepare
Like a soldier taking cover
In the midst of flying bullets and explosions
It's only natural to get a scare
It is not a sign of weakness
To duck and cover when things get tough
For all fighters get knocked down
But you have the courage to get back up
When the worst is over
You will be equipped for life
Not to fight but to experience what you desire
For you are the warrior who has ignited that inner fire
Attracting those who seek warmth and strength
You should be incredibly proud
For you believed in yourself to be brave
Enough to go the full length
Many thanks to NM for allowing us to share this with you. We wish you well as you continue on your journey and we'll be here to listen if you need us.
If you’ve been raped, sexually assaulted or sexually abused – whether this has happened recently or in the past – you can get support if you decide you want to report the incident, or incidents to the police.
It can be pretty daunting to think about reporting an incident to the police but there is support available to you and below is information from Police Scotland and from the Rape Crisis Centre in Glasgow about what you can expect if you decide to report.
We asked our colleagues at the Divisional Rape Investigation Unit in Glasgow to tell us what happens when a woman or man contacts them to report a sexual offence. We’ve also added information about the Support to Report Project here at the Rape Crisis Centre in Glasgow. You can also find out about the whole process from reporting to court on a DVD made by Rape Crisis Scotland, which is available on YouTube.
Police Scotland, Greater Glasgow Division Divisional Rape Investigation Unit (DRIU) are based at London Road Police Office, Bridgeton, and are responsible for the investigation, in a supportive manner, of Rape and other sexual offences which take place in the Greater Glasgow area.
In the past I had been scared to speak up about the abuse that I suffered and about what happened when I finally told someone about it and everything that entailed. I was scared to make people uncomfortable, I was scared that they would tell me just to be quiet because they didn’t want to think about it, they didn’t want to think that everyday someone out there, male, female, transgender, child, or adult, was experiencing and going through the massive betrayal that is sexual abuse. Then I thought to myself how utterly messed up that was, how are we meant to change the world and make it better for the next generation if we are scared to speak up? So here I am; I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and I do not care how uncomfortable that knowledge makes you, you can stop reading now or you can continue but it will not change the simple fact that the man I share half of my genes with sexually abused me for 5 years of my childhood, the man that was meant to protect me. I am not scared any more, this is my story.