The purpose of this forum is to provide peer support to women and girls aged 13 and over who have experiences of rape, sexual assault, or sexual abuse. It is also open to friends and family members, including males who are supporting a female survivor. Members are invited to join who are current or ex services users. We believe that connecting with other rape and sexual abuse survivors can be an important part of healing.
Our values at the Rape Crisis Centre will be reflected in our online community. These values include respect for every point of view and recognition that everyone is at a unique place in the process of recovery. We want to encourage others to move away from self-blame and reinforce positive attitudes and positive self-esteem.
Safety is of primary importance in the online community. It is forbidden to copy information from the forum or to discuss the content of posts out with the site. You are expected to treat other people’s disclosures and feelings with the respect that you would expect for yours. Please do not post personal contact information, such as personal email address, mobile phone or landline numbers, schools attending, workplace or any other details which could allow someone to find out more information about you. If you do this the moderator will contact you and you could be excluded from the forum. These rules are for the safety of all members.
By entering the online community you are acknowledging the Rape crisis perspective that works towards empowering women to make informed choices about their lives. We believe women and work with women towards an understanding that the abuse was not their fault.
We celebrate diversity, work from an anti-discriminatory perspective and acknowledge that women come from many different backgrounds. We maintain confidentiality at all times. The only exception to this is when a child or vulnerable adult is at risk or where a woman or girl indicates that her life is in danger, or she may cause harm to herself or to someone else.
Our definition of rape and sexual abuse is that they are crimes of violence and abuse of power – not ‘sex when you don’t want it’. We recognise the limited options and choices that women entering prostitution may have and the violation women experience while being prostituted. We do not therefore, define prostitution as ‘sex work’, or a woman’s choice but view it as being in itself a form of sexual violence.
We refer to women who have been raped or sexually abused as survivors or simply as women, as the term ‘victim’ implies that a woman can be prone to attack. We recognise that abuse is not perpetrated by ‘perverts’ or ‘maniacs’ but by sane people who have negative attitudes toward women. We believe what others tell us and work with towards an understanding that the abuse was not their fault.
The Rape Crisis Centre has a zero tolerance policy on bullying. Under no circumstances will we allow attacks targeted at members of this forum. If you feel you are being targeted by another user you can use the report button and our moderator will be alerted. Please contact us directly if you want to talk to us about this. You can also contact us directly if you want to make a complaint about any aspect of the forum.
Trolling will not be tolerated. A troll can be defined as "someone who posts inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room or blog, with the primary intent of provoking other users into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion."
Zero tolerance on abuse
Any of the following will mean you will automatically be removed from the forum
In a medical emergency please call 999. This forum is not the appropriate place to report a medical emergency and will not be monitored at all times.
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